Simple Steps to Help Your Relationship Grow

We all want our relationships to be picture perfect at all times. But at the end of the day, this isn’t something that many couples experience. We’re all human and this means there are inevitable bumps along the road that can lead to arguments, fall outs or relationships dwindling and fizzling out. Sometimes this is because people are simply incompatible. But sometimes, perceived problems can actually be figured out and you and your partner can grow from it. Here are just a few different things you can do to help your relationship grow and stay on the right path.

Steps to Help Your Relationship Grow

Set Boundaries

Boundaries can help relationships to grow at a steady rate, allowing room for you both to have your own space and to adjust being part of a couple. It’s important that you communicate your boundaries with your partner on an ongoing basis. This will help you to avoid rubbing each other up the wrong way and can prevent a whole lot of arguments as time passes.

Make Sure You’re On the Same Page

It’s important to make sure that you’re both on the same page in various ways. It’s important that you both want the same thing – whether that’s casual dating, a relationship, marriage, kids, or anything else. If you don’t agree on basic fundamentals, things can quickly go downhill. It’s best to be aware of one another’s wants and needs early on in order to ensure you can make a good match.

Consider Couples Therapy

If you find that you’re having troubles in any aspect of your relationship, couples therapy can help. Whether that’s marriage counselling, couples sex therapy, or anything else. These sessions place you and your partner in a neutral setting and can give you the opportunity to talk things out with professional guidance providing insight into your behaviours. Most people report that couples therapy helps them and their partner to iron out problems, grudges and other negative behaviour.

Continue to Make an Effort

A problem in many relationships is that people begin to take their partner for granted and stop making an effort. This shouldn’t be the case. You should always treat your partner at least in the same way you did when you were pursuing them at the start of the relationship. If anything, your efforts should increase as you grow to love them more! So, don’t let things dwindle. Give them nice surprises. Make sure they know you’re thinking about them. Offer them support. Listen to them. Encourage them in their interests and passions. Make dates. Go on dates. Keep things exciting!

These are just a few different things you can do that will help your relationship to grow. If you’re interested in making something serious of your current relationship, or you simply want to maintain a strong relationship and keep things going in the right direction, these simple steps can make all the difference!

Getting social in February

Well February is turning out to a busy month for me, our life always seems to be busy during the winter. As much as I love it, it then doesn’t hold out much hope for the rest of the year.

getting social

January has become a month where we go out for dinner with in brother-in-laws their gorgeous girl friends and their Aunty and Uncle who we are all really close too. It has been happening for the last 6 years and is something we all look forward too. The brother’s birthdays are all in January and early February so that is how it started.

Getting social in February

But February, wow, we have got meals and lunches booked all over the place. It’s my Hubby’s birthday along with his younger brother at the start of the month, so this weekend we are off out for dinner as a group of 4, (the older brother is away in London, but he was invited). We have a baby sitter.. woohoo!

Next week we have an evening meal out with my Dad, who now lives 3 hours away in Surrey, so he is coming up for a couple of nights. He has offered to take us all out for dinner, so we are heading to the village pub for dinner.

The following weekend, we have valentines day, so that will be a meal at home, normally the trusty M&S meal deal. Then shock horror we are having a take away with my mother in law and the brothers, partners and the children. It’s a once a year deal, we don’t really have meals with my mother in law, although we do see them a lot it’s more a cuppa and putting the political world to rights….. often resulting in needing a gin after.

Then it’s my birthday… woohoo! I think we might head to York for the day. It’s one of my favourite places to visit for the day. Although we haven’t been since we moved house, so it’s now just over 2 hours for us to get there. But with a full day out, will mean another meal out.

The weekend after we have been invited to my father-in-laws house for Sunday lunch, again with my brother-in-laws. My Hubby also has 3 step brothers and a step sister, plus their partners and children. At the moment there is 20 of us with the four children and 9 dogs! It’s busy at the father-in-laws when we are all together. But Sunday lunch is just us, the 2 brothers, girlfriends and the children, which will be nice. We have full family get togethers when we are get outside for the extra space!

My last night out is with a group of friends, celebrating my besties new job! She has landed her dream job working in London and I couldn’t be prouder! So I am staying over at hers so we can all enjoy a meal out and drinks after.

My month is super busy and I cannot remember having so many plans just one month since having children. But it is really nice to have things to look forward to.

Now what am I going to wear?

Dealing With Any Problem With Your Partner

Even the best relationships in the world have many problems. From time to time, there is always going to be something that crops up, and it is going to be necessary to try and deal with them as best as you can. Dealing with relationship problems is, of course, something that can be very challenging, but it is essential if you hope for the relationship itself to do well overall. In this article, we are going to take a look at some of the steps you can take to try and deal with any problem with your partner in a much more engaging and thoughtful way. This is likely to produce a much better response than just responding immediately in anger.

hand holding couple

Step Back & Consider

Before you go rushing off to sign the decree absolute, you should first take a moment to step back and consider the problem at hand. It is all too easy to fly off the handle when some problem occurs in a relationship – and many people act at their worst at such times, so you would not be alone in doing so. But if you want to get to the bottom of the problem at hand, it is necessary to step back and consider what is going on. With this thoughtful approach, you are more likely to be able to come up with a decent solution, so it is something that you should absolutely consider a vital part of the process of overcoming the problem. It will also help you to calm down.

Look At Their Viewpoint

One of the most helpful things you can do – and ultimately, this is how you solve all relationship problems – is to look at things from the other person’s viewpoint as closely and finely as you possibly can. By doing this, you will find that you are going to be able to work through any disagreements you might have much more quickly and easily, and that is going to mean that you resolve problems much easier. If you struggle with this kind of empathy, it is something that you might want to think about practising, as it is always going to be a helpful skill to use throughout your relationship.

Be Patient

No matter what it is, there is always the possibility that the problem will take a lot of time to resolve. You need to be ready for that, and in particular you need to make sure that you are not going to rush through anything, as that will often result in a much worse effect overall. The more patient that you can both be about the whole thing, the more likely it is that you will work through it all much more readily, so that is something to think about too. Patience is often the only thing you really need to work through any relationship problems. With enough of it, everything else will become much less important, and you can steadily and surely work through it all together.