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Getting social in February

Well February is turning out to a busy month for me, our life always seems to be busy during the winter. As much as I love it, it then doesn’t hold out much hope for the rest of the year.

January has become a month where we go out for dinner with in brother-in-laws their gorgeous girl friends and their Aunty and Uncle who we are all really close too. It has been happening for the last 6 years and is something we all look forward too. The brother’s birthdays are all in January and early February so that is how it started.

Getting social in February

But February, wow, we have got meals and lunches booked all over the place. It’s my Hubby’s birthday along with his younger brother at the start of the month, so this weekend we are off out for dinner as a group of 4, (the older brother is away in London, but he was invited). We have a baby sitter.. woohoo!

Next week we have an evening meal out with my Dad, who now lives 3 hours away in Surrey, so he is coming up for a couple of nights. He has offered to take us all out for dinner, so we are heading to the village pub for dinner.

The following weekend, we have valentines day, so that will be a meal at home, normally the trusty M&S meal deal. Then shock horror we are having a take away with my mother in law and the brothers, partners and the children. It’s a once a year deal, we don’t really have meals with my mother in law, although we do see them a lot it’s more a cuppa and putting the political world to rights….. often resulting in needing a gin after.

Then it’s my birthday… woohoo! I think we might head to York for the day. It’s one of my favourite places to visit for the day. Although we haven’t been since we moved house, so it’s now just over 2 hours for us to get there. But with a full day out, will mean another meal out.

The weekend after we have been invited to my father-in-laws house for Sunday lunch, again with my brother-in-laws. My Hubby also has 3 step brothers and a step sister, plus their partners and children. At the moment there is 20 of us with the four children and 9 dogs! It’s busy at the father-in-laws when we are all together. But Sunday lunch is just us, the 2 brothers, girlfriends and the children, which will be nice. We have full family get togethers when we are get outside for the extra space!

My last night out is with a group of friends, celebrating my besties new job! She has landed her dream job working in London and I couldn’t be prouder! So I am staying over at hers so we can all enjoy a meal out and drinks after.

My month is super busy and I cannot remember having so many plans just one month since having children. But it is really nice to have things to look forward to.

Now what am I going to wear?

Dealing With Any Problem With Your Partner

Even the best relationships in the world have many problems. From time to time, there is always going to be something that crops up, and it is going to be necessary to try and deal with them as best as you can. Dealing with relationship problems is, of course, something that can be very challenging, but it is essential if you hope for the relationship itself to do well overall. In this article, we are going to take a look at some of the steps you can take to try and deal with any problem with your partner in a much more engaging and thoughtful way. This is likely to produce a much better response than just responding immediately in anger.

Step Back & Consider

Before you go rushing off to sign the decree absolute, you should first take a moment to step back and consider the problem at hand. It is all too easy to fly off the handle when some problem occurs in a relationship – and many people act at their worst at such times, so you would not be alone in doing so. But if you want to get to the bottom of the problem at hand, it is necessary to step back and consider what is going on. With this thoughtful approach, you are more likely to be able to come up with a decent solution, so it is something that you should absolutely consider a vital part of the process of overcoming the problem. It will also help you to calm down.

Look At Their Viewpoint

One of the most helpful things you can do – and ultimately, this is how you solve all relationship problems – is to look at things from the other person’s viewpoint as closely and finely as you possibly can. By doing this, you will find that you are going to be able to work through any disagreements you might have much more quickly and easily, and that is going to mean that you resolve problems much easier. If you struggle with this kind of empathy, it is something that you might want to think about practising, as it is always going to be a helpful skill to use throughout your relationship.

Be Patient

No matter what it is, there is always the possibility that the problem will take a lot of time to resolve. You need to be ready for that, and in particular you need to make sure that you are not going to rush through anything, as that will often result in a much worse effect overall. The more patient that you can both be about the whole thing, the more likely it is that you will work through it all much more readily, so that is something to think about too. Patience is often the only thing you really need to work through any relationship problems. With enough of it, everything else will become much less important, and you can steadily and surely work through it all together.

When Marriage Problems Take Their Toll

Marriage has never been harder. Sure, there are far more ways to make interesting, but there seems to be far more obstacles that need to be avoided. There’s everything with social media, making it easier for people to cheat. There’s the fact that raising a child has never been harder, so the stress of money is bringing couples down. There’s many more things that we could go on to talk about. But instead, we’re going to try and calm your nerves just a little bit, because of your marriage is on the rocks at the minute, we know the stress you’re under is going to be extreme. Even if you know that it’s something you’re going to be able to work through, the stress of dealing with it at the time, as well as dealing with everything else going on in your life, is too much of a burden to bear. So, we’re hoping this post will show you that you’re not alone with what you’re dealing with, there’s most likely thousands of people in the same boat as you. So, let’s help you get out of that boat, and show you some of the ways you can save your marriage.

Lack Of True Time Together

This is one that most people are going to be able to relate to. Gone are the days of easily being able to meet up, spending way too much time together, and being the hopeless romantics that you once used to be. Now, life has no doubt started to get on top of you, and spending that quality time with each other is pretty much non existent. So to spend some time together, you should set out date nights. At least twice a month you should find yourself on a date with your partner. It gets you out of the house, hopefully out of talking about the usual family life conversation that you have, and actually reconnecting.

Cheating Scandals

Cheating is a growing problem at the minute, and it really is ruining people’s lives more so than ever before. Often, there’s underlying problems that lead to this, and a lot of men like to put it down to sex addiction. It’s no secret that after you’ve been with someone for a long period of time, the action is going to reduce. But if you notice they’re always prying for it, getting angry when you don’t, and always making comments, they might actually have some sort of addiction to sex. Sex therapists are noticing more married men being diagnosed, and the root cause may just be that everything does slow down with married life. So, it might be worth thinking about how you can spice things up a little bit, and maybe just finding the time to be alone more often.

One Sided Relationships

One sided relationships are the absolute worst, and it brings down what once used to be a really incredible pairing. Often the people who the side is moving toward, fail to recognise that they’re doing anything wrong. So, have a think about how often you find yourself telling your partner what to do, or that they’re wrong.