So you’re engaged to be wed and your heart still flutters with the remembrance of that romantic proposal, you get lost in hindsight with daydreaming about planning the coming months, and you can’t stop staring at that new item on your hand that states your love from every angle. New words like “fiancé” are a new addition to your vocabulary and you’ll find pretty much any excuse to inform others and address each other at any given moment. Dialogue opens up with streams of “Congratulations” and “Best Wishes”, pouring in from every direction and everyone you bump into wants to treat you to a glass of wine or a celebratory bottle of champagne. It goes without saying that you couldn’t be more excited to move into a new stage of your life with the one you love, so here are a few ways you can plan that perfect and special day.
The average couple is engaged for a total of 13 months. This is considered a great timeframe that works for most couples to achieve their dream wedding. After the initial engagement, it is advised to wait about three weeks before jumping into planning the wedding. Not only does this give the bride and groom to be plenty of time to revel in the engagement, but it’s not too long so that the start of planning doesn’t lose its momentum. Once you’re ready to start the planning, start by coming up with a realistic budget and an estimated guest count, then begin researching your favourite venues. Do this at your own pace, this could take a fair few months, to get it right. A lot of factors in choosing the perfect venue may depend on where you’re marrying, it’s unlikely that all venues will be booked up at the same time as your proposed wedding date but checking way in advance is the best way to minimise problems with booking at the best prices.
The only big responsibility for the Bride and Groom is to get married, of course, but there is a multitude of planning decisions to make first. Ideally, both the bride and groom should work together on these decisions to share the workload and to make sure both parties are happy with the ideas. Here are a few common things to consider:
- Set A Realistic, Safe Budget
- Choose The Date, Venue, Style and Any Other After Party Locations
- Meet With The Ceremony Officiant To Discuss Ceremonial or Registration Details
- Coordinate All Of The Invitations and Photographer, Flowers etc.
- Shop For Each Others Wedding Bands
- By Choice: Plan The Wedding Vows
- Thank-You Notes For Any Wedding Gifts.
In most cases, the bride and groom each handle certain details on their own, including each parties making sure that their side of the family are included within the guest list.
Again from a traditional sense, the bride chooses the bridesmaids and maid of honour. She would also make plans to host a meal and give her attendants thank-you gifts. Bridesmaid gifts are also another common item that is considered along with choosing a gift for the groom.
The groom would need to choose his groomsmen and the best man, including picking their ceremonial attire. He would, along with the bride, buy thank-you gifts for his groomsmen and for his bride. He would also have to arrange and pay for the registration of the marriage license and the practising officiant’s fee. Sometimes the responsibility will also fall to the groom if there are reservations needed at a local hotel for out-of-town guests, who are attending the wedding.
Picking The Maid Of Honour
So what is included with the status of a maid of honour? The maid of honour’s’ duties’ include helping plan the bachelorette party, making sure the bridesmaids dresses are ordered correctly and in a timely fashion, serving as the first point person on the wedding day, giving a speech at the reception, being a model wedding guest ensuring invitees are on time, including, reserving travel and hotel with the room block early and if needed, so much more.
Who Is Responsible For Putting Together The Bridal Shower?
For the majority of times, this duty will be split amongst a few people in the bridal party. I can be the mother of the bride and the groom, any sisters of the bride and the groom, or even extended family member such as the aunts of the bride and groom. All family members, if capable, should have the first opportunity to take the responsibility of planning this. If no one can take responsibility in the planning then the maid of honour will do it. When this happens It’s important that the maid-of-honour keeps in contact with the bride and the bride’s family members about this early on in the wedding planning process. This way, everyone knows who is doing what and when the shower is to reduce any confusion or double booking any other events.
Here are some final ideas on what other ‘Traditional’ Roles & Responsibilities might need thinking about when planning a dream wedding:
- Bride’s Parents
- Groom’s Parents
- Flower Girl
- Ring Bearer
There is plenty of information that you can obtain online which can elaborate on the number of responsibilities that is needed to successfully fill these roles. Depending on your religious views and other family factors, these roles may be limited or extended down to the wishes of the parties that are to be wed.
After months of planning, and the big day is finally here, Both you, your partner and the families have worked hard to help achieve all the steps to planning your perfect wedding. Staying calm and enjoying your special day, last but not least is the ceremony.
Here are standard steps that are taken in the ceremonial reception of a marriage:
- The Procession
- The Officiant’s Opening Remarks
- The Officiant Addresses the Couple
- The Exchange of Vows
- The Ring Exchange
- The Pronouncement of Marriage
- The Kiss
- The Closing Remarks
- The Recessional
Once the ceremony is over, many choose to host a celebration party for the families to further create lifelong memories from the joining of the two families, shortly followed by the honeymoon.
What ideas did you come up with that helped a smooth perfect day for you and your partner to wed? Give everyone a little inspiration and comment about your plans or experiences in the comments below!