Planning

Are you having a traditional or a modern style wedding..

The list of wedding traditions is a long one. Whether it’s white dresses, diamond rings, or the throwing of the bouquet, there are lots of things that people think should be at a wedding. A lot of the time, people include these things just because they think they should, rather than actually wanting to. But you don’t need to do that. If you want to, it’s perfectly fine to do away with all of the traditional wedding elements and create your own special day. Some of you might want to do that, while others prefer to stick to the tried and tested way of doing things. If you’re having trouble deciding between a traditional and a modern wedding, here are some of the major differences.

The Rings

When you think of wedding rings, you immediately think diamond. That’s what most people still tend to go for when choosing their engagement rings and wedding bands. If you’re keen on going down this route, you can get tacori engagement rings here. They are beautifully made traditional diamond engagement rings that are perfect for couples that want a classic style. However, diamond isn’t the only stone out there. If you and your spouse to be want to try something a little different, there are all sorts of things you could try instead of diamonds. For a partner that doesn’t like anything too flashy, you could always consider getting rid of the stone entirely and getting them a knot ring instead. It has the same symbolic value, but it’s a bit more understated. Otherwise, you could try something a bit more colourful like pearl or ruby.

The vows

One of the major differences between a traditional and a modern wedding is the content of the vows. The wedding vows that you’ve probably seen in movies are the traditional, religious vows. While that is fine for a couple that believes in God, a lot of people find it odd if they don’t. It seems like it has no relevance if you are making a promise to a God that neither of you believes in. Modern vows still have the same sentiment, but they involve making promises to one another, rather than to God. In lots of modern weddings, people are opting to write their own vows. This is a great way to make things all the more special.

The dress

Finding the perfect dress is top of the list for most brides. Some wouldn’t even entertain the idea of not having a white wedding dress, but for other couples, white just isn’t the right colour. However, lots of people still end up wearing a white dress because it’s the tradition. You don’t need to wear white if you don’t want to, it’s your special day after all. The truth is, you can wear whatever you like. It’s a good idea to go with fairly light, pastel colours, but when it comes to style, the choice is yours. Giving up on the huge meringue dress means that you can be a bit more comfortable on your big day. Try to find something that suits your personality best.

These are the main differences between traditional and modern weddings, which one is right for you?

 

Autumn Weddings

Autumn is a wonderful season to get married in. The trees have already given you the perfect colour palette, and all the inspiration you need is found in nature. The seasonal change requires you to think about a few things while you’re still in the planning stage, to make sure your new Mother-in-Law doesn’t slide down the aisle with you on the wet leaves.

Use these handy insights, straight from married couples who successfully pulled off a wedding in the autumn plus, the few tricks and tips they wish they knew about back then.

Watch out for the rain….

A wedding in the autumn is perfect for many reasons,  until the wind and rain ruin the comfortable area you’ve set up for your guests. While those who get married during Summer and Spring miss out on the gorgeous colour display of the autumn, they can also depend on the weather forecast a bit more than you’ll be able to. No matter what they say the weather is going to be like, have a plan B in case rain shows up after all.

Think about everything that makes this season so cosy and magical and throw in all of these elements if the weather should fail. Snuggly throws for the guests to warm up under, emergency heaters in case of a cold front, and even a good old fashioned can of coffee for your especially frozen guests are always welcome.

Remember that rain will make the ground wet and soggy and is not ideal for dancing or walking on. Consider to bring in flooring if the weather changes, make sure to tidy away any wet leaves so that no one falls and breaks their hip in the middle of your special day.

Yummy seasonal food

Everything that nature gives us during this season of harvest can be included as both decoration and food. Talk to your caterer and create a menu together that speaks autumn with every ingredient, pumpkins, mushrooms, squash, slow-roasted meat and orange leaves are perfect elements to decorate your venue.

Be creative about the decoration and make it practical as well as pretty, small but heavy pumpkins can hold the tablecloth down in the case of a sudden burst of wind, and you can serve special drinks made from pears or apple to complement the theme. Have a look at Richard Haworth for tablecloths in a range of colours, so that you can find one that works with the rest of the colour palette.

Timing is everything

When the sun is just about to set, bathing your venue in glorious shades of red, orange, and yellow. This is the time you should choose for those wedding photos. Work with the flow of the ceremony and time it so that your guests are able to enjoy the stunning view and romantic colours of the fall. It the reason that this is my favourite time of the year, and just missing out on the wonderful scenery Mother Nature has painted for you would be a shame.

Serve up some cocktails in the same shades as the sunset and bask in the feeling of having pulled off an undeniably romantic and unforgettable wedding.

Are you thinking about having a Autumnal wedding? I would love to hear all about it.

The wedding day, hope for the best (plan for the worst)

It’s an outdoor wedding. The forecast has been good all week. Then the bride wakes up on her big day, pulls back the curtain… and sees a torrential downpour has taken hold. Another bride is in the midst of getting ready, when her phone beeps with a message. Her maid of honour’s flight has been delayed and it’s looking unlikely she’ll be able to attend. Or sometimes, it doesn’t even happen on the day itself. Three days before the ceremony, the sheepish venue calls to inform the betrothed couple that they have had a disaster and the entire ceremony space is flooded. Reading through the above scenarios is enough to make any prospective bride break out in a sweat. We all want our wedding to be the perfect day we have always imagined. That’s why we plan, and think, and consider, and trial everything. We don’t leave anything to chance – at least, not the things we can control anyway.

Let’s be clear: it’s probably not going to happen. While those issues do occasionally occur, they are far from the norm. For most brides, their wedding is everything that they wanted it to be, the perfect day that they will look back on in years to come with nothing but happy memories. So there’s no need to rush into a panic about all the different ways in which things can go wrong. They probably won’t – but it’s always worth examining what you would do if problems did occur.

So don’t terrify yourself! Hope for the best and know that’s the most likely outcome, but there’s no harm in spending a few hours thinking of how you can prepare for the worst. Here are a few ideas to get you started.

Talk about the cancellation policy

However, there will always be things outside of our control. There is no way that a wedding can be 100% as it should be, without a single problem having a chance of derailing the day. There is always going to be a margin of error – and that means you need to be ready for it.

There are options such as Wedinsure which can insure you for the cost of your whole wedding, but you’re still going to need to know the exact cancellation policies of any suppliers you work with. So when you’re in discussions with the caterer, the band, and the venue, ask them what happens if you have to cancel or postpone your day.

To some brides, this can feel like tempting fate – but there’s nothing wrong with ensuring you’re fully furnished with the information you need to cover all possibilities. It doesn’t need to be a defining part of the conversation, but you do need to have an idea of where you stand. There are a number of reasons you might find yourself having to cancel or postpone that don’t involve someone getting cold feet, so it makes sense to run through the “what if” scenarios!

Spread out the days tasks

The idea of a maid of honour or best man is that they are your second in command. This tends to mean that you’re going to rely on them for a number of tasks on the day. Or if you prefer, you might be delegating duties to your parents or your close family. You might even have a professional wedding planner on whom you are able to rely.

That’s fine, to an extent. Trying to manage the entire day and enjoy it isn’t going to be particularly efficient, so you need to allow others to help you keep things on track. However, it’s worth thinking about how the day will unfold if a person is suddenly unable to attend.

Keep track of all the things you have asked specific people to do. Then imagine they are suddenly taken ill or stuck in traffic; how else could you organise tasks to ensure the day can go off without a hitch? Who else would you pass the tasks onto? Is there anything you can do to bring tasks forward so you don’t have to worry so much on the day?

The Cars

There’s a surprising amount of machinery involved in the average wedding. There’s the car to take you to the venue, the ovens and cooking equipment to prepare the main meal, even the lights of the disco you might have organised for the reception. With so many moving parts, there is always a chance there is going to be a mechanical snafu on the big day.

Make a list of all the times on your day you’re going to be relying on machines to make something possible. How will you get to the venue if the car breaks down? How is everyone goes to eat if there’s a problem with the food preparation? What about the heating system in the venue?

You might not be able to answer all of these questions, but jot down a few possible remedies so you have something to explore on the day if the unfortunate does become a reality. Having to come up with solutions in the moment, when stress is running high, rarely elicits good results. Your list made beforehand should at least give you a jumping off point from which you can find solutions.

The weather…

Outdoor weddings are beautiful, but they also carry with them a significant amount of risk. If you’re relying on the weather to go well for your day, then that’s fine, but you’re also going to need a backup plan. It doesn’t matter how good the weather is usually or what the long-range forecast says: you need to have at least visited the idea of a backup plan. Most outdoor venues will have solutions to this already, so don’t be afraid to ask them what happens if Mother Nature doesn’t play ball!

Arranging a wedding is a confusing mix of stress and excitement. By working through the “what if” scenarios in advance of the big day, you can be sure you’re ready to handle anything that the day throws at you – so you can just focus on getting married.