The wedding day, hope for the best (plan for the worst)

It’s an outdoor wedding. The forecast has been good all week. Then the bride wakes up on her big day, pulls back the curtain… and sees a torrential downpour has taken hold. Another bride is in the midst of getting ready, when her phone beeps with a message. Her maid of honour’s flight has been delayed and it’s looking unlikely she’ll be able to attend. Or sometimes, it doesn’t even happen on the day itself. Three days before the ceremony, the sheepish venue calls to inform the betrothed couple that they have had a disaster and the entire ceremony space is flooded. Reading through the above scenarios is enough to make any prospective bride break out in a sweat. We all want our wedding to be the perfect day we have always imagined. That’s why we plan, and think, and consider, and trial everything. We don’t leave anything to chance – at least, not the things we can control anyway.

Let’s be clear: it’s probably not going to happen. While those issues do occasionally occur, they are far from the norm. For most brides, their wedding is everything that they wanted it to be, the perfect day that they will look back on in years to come with nothing but happy memories. So there’s no need to rush into a panic about all the different ways in which things can go wrong. They probably won’t – but it’s always worth examining what you would do if problems did occur.

So don’t terrify yourself! Hope for the best and know that’s the most likely outcome, but there’s no harm in spending a few hours thinking of how you can prepare for the worst. Here are a few ideas to get you started.

Talk about the cancellation policy

However, there will always be things outside of our control. There is no way that a wedding can be 100% as it should be, without a single problem having a chance of derailing the day. There is always going to be a margin of error – and that means you need to be ready for it.

There are options such as Wedinsure which can insure you for the cost of your whole wedding, but you’re still going to need to know the exact cancellation policies of any suppliers you work with. So when you’re in discussions with the caterer, the band, and the venue, ask them what happens if you have to cancel or postpone your day.

To some brides, this can feel like tempting fate – but there’s nothing wrong with ensuring you’re fully furnished with the information you need to cover all possibilities. It doesn’t need to be a defining part of the conversation, but you do need to have an idea of where you stand. There are a number of reasons you might find yourself having to cancel or postpone that don’t involve someone getting cold feet, so it makes sense to run through the “what if” scenarios!

Spread out the days tasks

The idea of a maid of honour or best man is that they are your second in command. This tends to mean that you’re going to rely on them for a number of tasks on the day. Or if you prefer, you might be delegating duties to your parents or your close family. You might even have a professional wedding planner on whom you are able to rely.

That’s fine, to an extent. Trying to manage the entire day and enjoy it isn’t going to be particularly efficient, so you need to allow others to help you keep things on track. However, it’s worth thinking about how the day will unfold if a person is suddenly unable to attend.

Keep track of all the things you have asked specific people to do. Then imagine they are suddenly taken ill or stuck in traffic; how else could you organise tasks to ensure the day can go off without a hitch? Who else would you pass the tasks onto? Is there anything you can do to bring tasks forward so you don’t have to worry so much on the day?

The Cars

There’s a surprising amount of machinery involved in the average wedding. There’s the car to take you to the venue, the ovens and cooking equipment to prepare the main meal, even the lights of the disco you might have organised for the reception. With so many moving parts, there is always a chance there is going to be a mechanical snafu on the big day.

Make a list of all the times on your day you’re going to be relying on machines to make something possible. How will you get to the venue if the car breaks down? How is everyone goes to eat if there’s a problem with the food preparation? What about the heating system in the venue?

You might not be able to answer all of these questions, but jot down a few possible remedies so you have something to explore on the day if the unfortunate does become a reality. Having to come up with solutions in the moment, when stress is running high, rarely elicits good results. Your list made beforehand should at least give you a jumping off point from which you can find solutions.

The weather…

Outdoor weddings are beautiful, but they also carry with them a significant amount of risk. If you’re relying on the weather to go well for your day, then that’s fine, but you’re also going to need a backup plan. It doesn’t matter how good the weather is usually or what the long-range forecast says: you need to have at least visited the idea of a backup plan. Most outdoor venues will have solutions to this already, so don’t be afraid to ask them what happens if Mother Nature doesn’t play ball!

Arranging a wedding is a confusing mix of stress and excitement. By working through the “what if” scenarios in advance of the big day, you can be sure you’re ready to handle anything that the day throws at you – so you can just focus on getting married.


Wedding by the water

Weddings take a lot of planning – the catering, the guest list, the flowers, and more. Perhaps one of the most difficult decisions to make is the venue. After all, everything else on the wedding list can be affected by your choice of setting. If you’re outdoors, you need reliable weather or a good marquee company! And if you’re indoors, you need to know that the room for your reception will be the most beautiful space in the building.

Of course, some people are determined to include incredible landscape backdrops for their wedding photography. It makes sense. The couple in the photo look stunning, so they should be somewhere that is equally amazing. This is one of the reasons why destination weddings are so popular. It’s quite handy to already be at your honeymoon destination as well!

Gorgeous scenery

Wedding By The Water

So what are your options for a stunning landscape? You might marry on top of a mountain with far reaching views of the country. Or you might prefer rolling hills and fields of wildflowers as your backdrop. For many, the allure and the romance of the water calls. A beach wedding or even a wedding on the water can be one of the most beautiful and idyllic places to marry.

The allure of water side weddings

There are many places around the world to choose from. Of course, few beat Venice if you wish to marry on the water. The water in Venice is mostly still, easily accessible, and offers some stunning shots for your wedding photos. Have a look at the Vittore Buzzi Photographer website to get some ideas about your own choice of wedding pictures. You’ll see that Venice can offer beautiful architecture, romantic gondola rides for the happy couple and incredible waterways for that perfect wedding venue.


Picking a European destination like Venice offers you far more than just the chance to enjoy your wedding on the water. The ancient buildings of Italy are so incredibly ornate. The detail in each one will look amazing in your wedding photos. Then, of course, is all that gorgeous Italian antique furniture! Who wouldn’t want a photo of the bride sat in such an incredible chair or stood upon a cast iron balcony above the water?

Ceremony of reception

So what should you consider if you want to have a ceremony or reception on the water? Each destination is different. In some places, you must wear a life preserver by law. This can be tricky to deal with in a wedding gown! And heels and boats don’t always work well together. A floating platform might be a better way to deal with this situation. In some places, you can find a good sized decking area at the end of a short pier. This gives you the illusion of being out on the water, but you’re not all at sea. Speak to your wedding planner to see what precautions must be taken.


What about a beach wedding? Again, in some places, there are restrictions. Still, they can be easily overcome if you know what you need to do. For example, in most parts of the UK, you must legally marry within the four walls of a registered building. That doesn’t stop you performing a ceremony before (or after) the legal part, anywhere you like. This might be considered a renewal of vows, or simply a public affirmation of love. It means you can still have photos of your both on the banks of the lakes in Cumbria or even Loch Ness.


Cruise ships are well known for offering weddings and honeymoons. Most cruise ship chapels are very small so would suit a small guest list. You would most likely be married by the ship’s Captain, but this doesn’t mean your ceremony can’t be religious. The Captain may have restrictions about where the ship should be during the legal part of the ceremony. You might also find you have to book quite far in advance to ensure you get the wedding you’re hoping for.

As you and your guests will be at sea, you will probably enjoy your honeymoon on board. There is plenty of choice for entertainment with the other ship’s guests, but if you want a more private venue, you may have to pay quite a bit extra. Food and drink, of course, will never be a problem. The service is often second to none, and you will have a good choice of accommodation and extras while you are onboard.

Is it legal?

In some places, you can hire a private yacht and the Captain there can perform the legal part of your ceremony for you. Some advertise this as a special service in different parts of the world. It’s best to check if the ceremony is legally binding or if you need to have a registrar service at your local courthouse before hand. You can usually only legally marry the person you are married to once. But you can renew your vows or indulge in an affirmation ceremony that has no legal bearing at all. It can be just as romantic as the real thing, and there is nothing stopping you from getting dressed up and exchanging rings.

Don’t forget – every legally binding marriage must be witnessed, so make sure your witnesses don’t get seasick! While receptions on the water can be lots of fun and a great theme for the event, there needs to be safety precautions too. Alcohol and the water don’t mix, so make sure everyone is well looked after. As for romantic photos? Imagine the moonlight reflected on the water behind you and your new spouse. What about a photo of you both dipping your toes in the foam as the wave reaches the beach? What ideas might you have?

A wedding on the water can be wonderfully romantic, and it can offer some of the best backdrops for your wedding photography. There are plenty of ways to make the most of your watery theme too. While most guest lists on board boats might be quite small, a beach wedding or pier venue can offer all the space you need for everyone. Enjoy your beautiful day.