Choosing your bridesmaids isn’t always an easy decision. Sisters, soon to be sister-in-laws, best friends, childhood friends, nieces, cousins… the list is endless. Oh and don’t forget the person who you think will be offended if you don’t pick them.
Your bridesmaids should be there to help you with your wedding plans. They should help arrange the hen party, be there to help you choose your wedding dress, attend dress fittings, make-up trials, hair trials. They need to have an honest opinion and a positive outlook on your wedding. The last thing you need is negativity surrounding your day.
You also need to decided how many bridesmaids you would like within your party, and give the title of ‘Maid of Honour’. Don’t forget, for each bridesmaid you have comes with added cost to your day. Dresses, makeup, hair, jewellery, thank you gifts. It’s quite common now that a bridesmaid will often pay for elements of their own outfit, shoes or hair. Some brides now get their bridesmaid to do their own makeup, to save on the cost. I even have a friend who had six bridesmaids, each paid for their whole outfit.
When I got married I only had my Sister, I wanted to pay for everything for her. Her dress, shoes, beauty treatments and a lovely gift. She did in fact do her own makeup, more because she didn’t want someone else doing it and not getting it right. I also knew that if I added anymore to my bridal party that I would offend a couple of my long term close friends. Which I didn’t want. Plus, we honestly didn’t have the money to do it for everyone. Instead we included them in the ceremony by giving readings.
So once you have chosen your bridal party, be it one, two or ten bridesmaids, now comes the fun part of asking them. It has become increasingly popular to use a personalised gift to ask. A bottle of wine, a nice card or a little gift. Etsy have some lovely ideas.
However you choose to ask your bridesmaids, make sure you choose people you love and want to be a part of your special day.
*images from Pinterest and Etsy*