Relationships are best on a level playing field. While the man was once in control, the same can’t be said in the modern day. This is good, of course, and a sure sign that the role of women is improving. But, it does lead to confusion where dating is concerned. As this is still new, both you and your potential partners may find it difficult to get things off the ground in the right way. And, that’s an obvious setback when the start of a relationship has a significant impact on how things progress.
A look back to the not so distant future is all it takes to see how much dating has changed. A ‘traditional’ man would make the decisions, pay the bills, and open the car door for his lovely lady. Now though, few women look for those qualities. In fact, most would get irritated by a man taking control that way.
But, let’s give the guys a break. Often, they fall back on these tried and tested methods due to uncertainty. Many men are torn between being chivalrous, and not wanting to offend their date. As such, it’s more important than ever for women to set the tone. We’re the ones who have experienced the main change. As such, it’s down to us to lay the ground rules.
First, it’s important to consider what you’re after. If you want the wined and dined experience, that’s fine. The power is still with you because you’ve made that decision. For the majority of us, though, that no longer appeals. Think about how your dream date would go. Then, set about making it happen.
Your new role starts during the planning stages. While the man was once responsible for choosing what you did on your first dates, that’s no longer the case. Now, you both have an equal responsibility. If you throw in some date suggestions, your man will see straight away that you don’t want him to take charge. Of course, many of us aren’t used to deciding on date locations. If that’s the case, let him pick the first date. This will give you a good idea of what he enjoys, and leave you in a better position moving forward. Then, take a look at something like these second date ideas to inspire you when your turn comes around. Think, too, about anything he mentioned during the first date. Any knowledge about what he enjoys will help.
The other thing that most confuses dating is who pays. Men are no longer obliged to pay the bill, and nor should they be. It’s an outdated concept which suggests women can’t pay their way. Not the case! But, some men still offer to pay through fear of offending. Make things clear to him by reaching for your purse when the bill comes. Paying for your half will show him that you’re strong, independent, and able to stand on your own two feet. What man doesn’t want a woman like that?