Top 10 tips for choosing your wedding invitations

The wedding is now approaching fast and it doesn’t get more real than putting your wedding invitations in the post! Your wedding invitations will set the tone for your big day and will be your guests’ first glimpse of the delights that your wedding has in store. It is, therefore, worth taking the time to get them just right!

The world of wedding stationery can be difficult to navigate when faced with choices of styles, paper options and formats, so choosing your wedding invitations is no mean feat! Luckily for you, Atelier Rosemood, purveyors of personalised wedding stationery, are here to help with their 10 top tips for choosing your wedding invitations and negotiating the world of wedding invitation etiquette!

1. Have the important dates to hand

Top 10 tips for choosing your wedding invitations
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Aim to send out your wedding invitations around three to four months before the big day, giving yourself a couple of months beforehand to prepare and order your invites. If you are hosting a destination wedding you will want to send out your invites even earlier, (at least four months before the wedding), to ensure that your guests have time to organise accommodation and transport.

Your RSVP deadline will also play an important part in deciding when to send your wedding invitations. Give your guests around a month to reply to your wedding invitations, leaving yourself some breathing room to chase any unanswered invites before your suppliers require the final headcount.

2. Try wedding invitation samples

At this point, you probably have a wedding theme and colour scheme in mind so you can start looking for wedding stationery that will match your wedding vision. For some, it will be love at first sight when it comes to wedding invitations, whilst others may find it hard to narrow down their shortlist of designs. That is why it is a good idea to order wedding stationery samples from different companies so that you get a feel for the designs, printing and paper! Atelier Rosemood even offer free personalised samples so that you can see your wedding invitation wording in print!

3. Choose a theme

There are a whole host of wedding styles and themes out there, but the important thing is to choose a theme that suits your personalities and venue. Whether you are going rustic chic or contemporary glamour, take the time to browse through wedding invitation designs online to find inspiration for motifs and colours to suit your theme. A good place to start is by setting up a Pinterest board to keep track of your ideas.

4. Let your venue inspire your wedding invites

Embrace the surroundings and defining features of your venue when choosing your wedding stationery, bearing in mind the colour and style of the décor. Rustic wedding invitations with floral designs are perfect for a countryside wedding reception, whilst metallic wedding invitations will set the scene for a contemporary venue defined by its minimalist style.

5. Know your wedding colour scheme

If you have been planning your wedding in your head for the last few years, then you may already have a colour scheme in mind. If so, base the colours and hues of your wedding invitation design on your chosen colour palette. Atelier Rosemood offers a custom colour option for many of its most popular designs, so even if you don’t see your chosen colour on the website, they can adapt many of their designs to suit your colour scheme. Therefore, don’t be afraid to ask your stationery supplier about different colour options!

6. Have your wedding invitations reflect the season

The time of year you are getting married can also be a source of inspiration for your wedding stationery, with many venues being transformed by the seasons. Bright floral wedding invitations are ideal for a spring or summer wedding, whilst a wintry colour palette of crisp white or icy blue will be more suited to your winter wedding!

7. Make your wedding invitations personal

There are many ways to add personal touches to your wedding invitation design! Use your names or initials to create your very own wedding insignia or get creative and add a photo of the happy couple or your venue! You can also make your invitations personal for your guests by writing out their names by hand, (draft in a member of the bridal party to help if you don’t have brilliant handwriting).

8. Think about your wedding budget

Prices of wedding stationery will vary depending on the paper type and formats that you choose, so do bear your budget in mind as you browse different designs. If your dream wedding invitations come in a little over budget then think about some other ways you can keep the costs down. Ordering your wedding invitations well in advance so that you can send them by 2nd Class post and delivering your invites by hand where possible will help save on postage. It’s also good to remember that you should count one wedding invitation per household and not one per person when planning your wedding stationery budget.

9. Get your wedding invitation wording right

Picking your favourite design for your wedding invitations is a big step and can be a lot of fun! Finding the perfect wedding invitation wording, on the other hand, can sometimes be a bit of a headache. A simple change of wording can transform the same wedding invitation design from classic country house wedding to relaxed tipi wedding, or from a day to an evening-only invite. There is plenty of wedding invitation advice out there to help you choose the best text to reflect the formal or relaxed feel of your big day.

10. Bear the rest of your wedding stationery in mind!

Your wedding invitations are just the start of your wedding journey, with a whole host of on-the-day stationery to follow, leading right up to your wedding thank you cards and photo books after the big day! Whilst there is no rule to say that all of your wedding stationery has to match, a coordinated wedding stationery suite does have a true wow factor, so take a look whether there are matching menus and place cards available when ordering your wedding invitations.  

We hope that these top tips will help make choosing your wedding invitations that bit easier and don’t forget that you can find plenty more wedding stationery advice on Rosemood’s website and blog! Their friendly customer service team are also on hand to help you find the perfect wedding stationery and photo books so do not hesitate to get in touch!

 

*This is a collaborative post.*

Bridal traditions from around the world

Marriage is special no matter the country. However, different cultures have their own unique ways of preparing for and celebrating the happy couple’s nuptials. QUIZ, retailers of occasion dresses, tell us a few weird and wonderful wedding traditions from around the world.

Bridal traditions from around the world

Germany

Germany has a wealth of wedding traditions, with many of them starting before the big day even begins. For example, before a future bride-to-be is even engaged, she saves away pennies, which will then be used to purchase her wedding shoes. This tradition is said to help the happy couple get off on the right foot.

While other countries will simply pop their wedding invites in the post, it’s very different for couples in Germany. They send out a Hochzeitslader, a gentleman dressed in formal, fancy wear complete with ribbons and flowers, to hand-deliver their invitations. Guests accept the invitations by pinning a ribbon from the Hochzeitslader’s outfit onto his hat, before inviting him into their home for a drink. Depending on the guest list, this can take quite some time!

German couples must have a civil ceremony in their town registry office. Then, in the days following, a church ceremony can be held, although this isn’t required. Generally, few guests will attend the civil ceremony and the bride and groom will dress relatively simply.

If a church ceremony is to take place, it’s traditional for a Polterabend to take place a few days after the civil ceremony. Believing that negative spirits are attracted to brides, Polterabend takes place to scare them aware. On the night before the church ceremony, the bride and groom gather with their friends and family where they smash china and porcelain. The noise made is said to scare away the spirits, while illustrating that their marriage will never break. Glass is never broken, as this is believed to be bad luck.

Following the church service, some German newlyweds may saw logs. A log is set up on a sawhorses and the bride and groom must work together to saw through it, illustrating their teamwork. Instead of confetti, wedding guests throw grains of rice over the bride and groom, with legend being that each grain of rice that lands in the bride’s hair symbolises a future child!

At the reception, the bride’s veil is held up and the bride and groom dance underneath it. When the music stops, single women will tear pieces off the veil. The lady left with the biggest piece is said to be the next to marry. Alternatively, instead of ripping the veil, guests simply throw money into it while it is held up.

Spain

In a traditional Spanish wedding, things are done a little differently to the UK. For example, they don’t include bridesmaids, groomsmen, a maid of honour or best man, and the mother of the groom walks her son down the aisle. Likewise, there are no speeches and wedding rings are worn on the ring finger of the right hand.

Traditionally, the wedding dress and veil was actually made from black lace! However, modern times have seen more brides wearing a white lace dress and mantilla, a type of lace headdress. The mantilla is traditionally given by the mother of the bride, who will have it embroidered especially. The mantilla is worn with a peineta — a high comb.

Usually, traditional Spanish weddings will begin in the early evening and continue into the early hours. Often, the groom will present his bride with 13 gold coins, each blessed by a priest. This act is said to bring the couple good fortune and symbolise the groom’s commitment to support his bride.

Flowers are important to traditional weddings in Spain, with many choosing the orange blossom to symbolise purity. The bride will give a small flower corsage to her girlfriends. If a lady is single, she must wear her corsage upside down and if she loses it during the night, it’s believed that she will be next to be married!

China

The size of China as a country means traditions can vary from region to region, yet each has their own special meaning.

Tujia brides must cry for an hour a day every day for a month in the run-up to their wedding. After the first ten days, the bride’s mother joins her in crying daily before being joined by her grandmother. As the other women join in, it’s seen as an expression of their joy.

Brides from the country’s Yugar culture will be shot by their grooms with a bow and arrow (thankfully, the arrows are free from their arrowheads!). After shooting their bride three times, the arrows are broken, showing that the couple will always love each other.

When the bride is getting ready on the day of the wedding, a ‘good luck woman’ will help the bride do her hair. This woman is considered lucky if she has living parents, a spouse and children, and it is hoped she will pass on some of this good fortune to the bride.

The groom will collect the bride from her home, where he is greeted by the bride’s friends, who block his entry into the home (it’s all in good spirits). The groom is required to prove his love for his future wife through answering a series of questions about her or even by offering money in red envelopes to buy his way into the house.

Brides in northern China will traditionally wear a red dress or Qi Pao, embroidered with gold and silver detailing. In southern China, brides wear a two-piece outfit — a Qun Gua, Kwa or Cheongsam — featuring a gold phoenix or dragon detailing.

On the wedding night, the bride is given a half-cooked dumpling. This is a signifier of family prosperity, as the word raw is linked to child birth.

India

Indian weddings differ depending on the region that they’re taking place, therefore bridal traditions are different too. It’s not uncommon for Indian weddings to take place over several days — different to the couple’s one special day in other countries. 

Ahead of the wedding day, the bride partakes in a Mehendi ceremony. This is where family and friends gather to apply the beautifully intricate henna. Tradition says that the deepness of the colour of the henna determines the bond between husband and wife and how well the bride will get along with her mother-in-law. Hidden within the henna are the names of the happy couple and it’s often painted on the palms, hands, forearms and legs.

When it comes to the outfit of the big day, it again depends on where the bride was born. In some regions, the women will wear a saree (long drape) for her wedding and in others she wears a lehenga (a long skirt). It’s common for the bride to be dressed in red or another bright colour and her clothing is stitched with an outstanding design.

A key element in an Indian wedding is the walk around the fire. The marriage becomes official when the bride and groom walk around the fire four times as verses are chanted, and the couple is tied together. The husband and wife then race back to their seats, as the one who sits first is said to be the most dominant.

From Chinese brides getting shot by a bow and arrow, to being painted in delicate patterns, bridal traditions are very different depending on where you live. But, they’re all a celebration of love and happiness and are special in their own ways. Will you take any inspiration from these traditions for your special day?

 

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Finding our forever home

So we have done it, we have finally put an offer in on a house and it’s been accepted. I cannot begin to tell you how happy we are.

The house is in the village that we spend a lot of time in, the children go to school there and my Hubby spent a lot of time there as a children staying at it Grandparents house. It is his Grandparents house that we are buying from the family. Unfortunately we lost my Hubby’s beloved Grandmother at Christmas, and we miss her so much.

finding our forever home

The family knew that we wanted to move to the village, so they gave us the opportunity to buy the house from them before putting it on the market with an estate agent. It’s not always easy to negotiate with family, we had to make sure it was within our buying budget but also that they get a fair price for it.

In the end we settled on a fee and we are so happy to be moving forward with buying the house. We have dreamed about living in the village for a long time, and now it’s our time to live the village life dream.

Saving up the deposit

We saved up the 10% deposit that most mortgage lenders want, although there is a few out there now that will accept a 5% deposit. The different in monthly payments from having 5% – 10% really is quite a lot. When I was first looking it was around £250 per month, which is a lot of money to any family. Our main priority over the last few months has been saving up enough money to have that 10% deposit.

I then started to look at the costs of conveyancing, I thought it would be around £500 plus stamp duty costs, however I was fairly shocked to see it comes to nearer £1000 with all of the little costs for searching, bankruptcy checks and various other little bits and the VAT. Then the stamp duty is on top of that. Which means we need to find just over £2000 to cover the conveyancing and stamp duty costs. Luckily we have been saving hard so we have everything we need.

We have spoken to an online mortgage consultant, from a company called London and Country. I actually found them one Saturday afternoon while I was wondering who it was best to use for our Mortgage, and how much we could borrow. It was so easy you just pop all of your details in, wages, out goings, information about the children. Lots of different things so they can access your suitability for a mortgage and how much someone will lend you. I popped all of the details in and then I was rang back by a lovely lady called Sophie who went through some of the details with me and we discussed fixed mortgage options.

Choosing a mortgage

To start with we thought it might be an idea to go with a 3 year fixed mortgage, however after some discussion and the fact that we are looking to stay in the house forever. We have decided to go with a 5 year fixed mortgage, plus with Brexit looming we don’t know what is going to happen with interest rates and the housing market. So why not.

Sophie gave us a couple of different mortgage options, one with a slightly lower interest rate, however it came with a £999 fee, which was just not worth it. As over the 5 years we wouldn’t save that amount of money, and the monthly go outgoings were not that much different.

The HSBC mortgage is at 2.35% fixed over 5 years with a 10% deposit. Sophie explained the rest of the process. When we are ready to go ahead and make the application, we would only be waiting for 13 days to have an answer back from HSBC which lasts for 6 months. Plus it included the basic survey for the house, which is great as I think some mortgage companies charge for this as well.

Within 7 days we had our mortgage offer arrive, with no issues, no concerns on the property and no conditions on the mortgage. We couldn’t be happier that now we are now just a few weeks away to moving into our forever home.

Now to start planning the interior and to celebrate.