Wedding invitations are more of a tradition than a necessity these days. Even in an ever-more digital world, there’s something delightful about being able to hold an invitation in your hands and run your fingers over the beautiful calligraphy. While it might be easier (and cheaper!) to just invite people over the internet or with a phone call, few brides are able to resist the lure of beautiful invitations being sent out to their friends and family.
While these invitations might be primarily ornamental rather than functional these days, the reality is that invitations give you a chance to request more than just an RSVP from your guests. Add a section onto your invitations that allows you to ask a few questions; questions that will allow you to be able to ensure that your guests have the best possible time at your wedding.
Below are three questions you could ask on your invitations, and why they are so important.
Question One: Do You Have Any Dietary Restrictions?
No one wants to be the wedding guest sitting at their reception table, unable to eat anything that’s put in front of them. There’s a wide variety of dietary restrictions that your wedding catering should be able to provide for– but only if you know what restrictions your guests may have. You need to know if they have religious restrictions, allergies, or intolerances such as Celiac disease, so ask the question on your invitation; then you can ensure all your guests are provided for.
Note: This is not an excuse for guests to be picky eaters! Restrictions — which have to be obeyed — are very different from “I just don’t like this much”. Provide a tick box of answers instead of allowing people to write in their own answer, as it helps to eliminate any picky requests.
Question Two: Do You Have Any Seating Preferences?
Figuring out the seating chart for your reception is like playing a human game of Jenga; you have to get people in just the right place, or there’s a risk it will all fall down. If you know beforehand that certain people don’t want to be seated near one another, then it makes planning far simpler. So ask the question on your invite, so no one has to acknowledge the awkwardness vocally– but you are still able to tailor your seating plan to suit.
Question Three: Do You Have Any Particular Requests?
It helps to give examples of the requests, such as:
- Baby changing facilities
- Mobility restrictions, such as not being able to walk far to get to a room within a venue
- Questions about gifts or the registry
The vast majority of people replying to your invitation will leave this section blank. However, for those that do want to make a special request, this gives them a chance to do so without appearing overly demanding. If a request is made that you need to respond to, you can either deal with it yourself or delegate the task to a bridesmaid.
As the above reasons show, invitations do have a place in modern weddings. Use them to glean the information you need to ensure you and your guests have the best experience imaginable. Good luck!